Sometimes parties to mediation choose to take a break for conflict coaching - to help them constructively express their views, or help perspective or insight. Conflict coaching can also be useful before mediation and independently of it.
This case was referred to the CLM Mediation Service by the Courts Service of Ireland and related to a neighbour dispute about noise levels. One party was operating a dog kennels and behaviour training business from their home and the other party believed that the increased noise levels were unacceptable. They believed that the other party was ignoring their continued requests to reduce the level of noise. The person who was the subject of the complaint was of the opinion that the other party was complaining unnecessarily. The conflict escalated to arguments, threats and the subsequent issuing of court proceedings. By the time the parties engaged in mediation, their relationship had deteriorated the point where they were refusing to communicate with each other.
CLM’s Mediation Service was contacted by a father in relation to ongoing conflict with his adult daughter. Both parties resided in the family home and both were employed. Due to work commitments, the father was a frequent traveller. However, at home the parties were experiencing significant difficulties in their relationship with each other.
Parental Mediation – Separation/Access Plan
The Mediation Service was contacted by Party 1 who wanted to finalise a comprehensive parenting plan through mediation. Contact was made with Party 2 and both parties agreed to participate in mediation.
Party 1 was 81 years old with severe arthritis and vascular dementia. He used a wheelchair and lived alone. He was supported by his four children and private home carers. Relations between the siblings had been strained since their mother died ten years ago. As their father’s health had deteriorated, they had not been able to agree a care plan that set out who would spend time with him on which days. It had been suggested that one sibling may have been mismanaging their father’s finances. Arguments had escalated into abusive phone calls and threatening emails, causing stress amongst the siblings and their partners. Party 1 was aware of the fighting and had said that it upset him. Without a clear plan for managing his care at home, he was at risk of having to enter residential care. Party 1’s family were referred to mediation by the Alzheimer Society helpline. A care plan was drawn up providing clarity to the family members about their respective roles enabling their father to stay living in his home for as long as possible.
Party 1, a 91 year old man living alone, contacted Mediation after his electricity was cut off. Party B, a representative from the electricity supply company was invited to an initial informal meeting after which, both parties agreed to proceed with mediation in order to bring the dispute to an amicable conclusion.